Wednesday, July 15, 2009


Through out our lives our friendships will constantly change. There are times when I spend more time with one person than another. Certain moods draw me towards certain people. But one thing remains true about all of my friends, my true friends, we are all willing to drop everything for each other, be there for each other, and support each other when the time comes. It doesn't matter that we don't go to lunch everyday, or talk on the phone everyday. It matters that when the other person is in need, we are there for each other. This is my biggest definition of friendship. To me, friendship is not about how often we went shopping together last month or the last time we sat down for dinner together. We all have lives that interfere with how often we would like to talk or see each other. To me, what separates the acquaintances from the true friends is that ability to support each other.

Generally, I know exactly who these people I can count on are. Sometimes, I am shocked when a new person emerges. There are people that I truly did not expect to be standing by my side, and yet, there they were. And then, sometimes, I am blown away when I expect someone to be there and they are not. At. All. Like won't even answer the phone when I call. Won't call me. Sends me one, "Sorry your kid is having major surgery, but I was out shopping when you called," email.

I have listened to her every complaint. I have helped her when she was in need. I have tried to be a good friend, but I am over the one sided friendships.

On another note, super duper thanks to
Sheri who probably dreads my panicked phone calls lately, but takes them anyway!

and Anita for, among other things, watching Ems last night, so we could be at the hospital with the fam...that is a whole different story

and Stace for checking up on me all the time, even though she is sleep deprived (and maybe ready to pull her hair out!)

and all my other awesome friends....


Aimee' said...

I totally feel you on the one sided friend thing!! I wish I had enough courage to let that friend go but I suck when it comes to that. I always think 'well what if they really need me one day?'

I am Trish Marie said...

I know. I have excused some things that I really should not have. Not that I have always been the perfect friend, because, obviously I am not perfect. But, there have been some pretty big letdowns, and I let them slide.